Friday, September 09, 2011

I'd rather have...

"I'd rather have thirty minutes of wonderful, than a lifetime of nothing special."  
Shelby, Steel Magnolias

Our history together only spanned nine years.
Our marriage - seven.
Too short, indeed.
But thankfully, our love is for an eternity.

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At some point after thirty, I began to make peace with the fact that I might be single for the rest of my life.  I didn't love the idea - but I began to accept that possibility.  When I was thirty-five - I met Iain and didn't marry him til I was thirty seven.  If I knew then what I know now - and if I realized that I would only have a brief chapter of my life with him -- I still would have wholeheartedly done it again.  My life together with him was blessed, full, adventurous, challenging and joyful.  I fully embrace that quote from Steel Magnolias.  Thirty minutes of wonderful is, indeed, better than a lifetime of nothing special.  I have been gifted with a beautiful life with the man who was far more wonderful that my mind would have ever been able to conceive.  Even in our darkest moments, I knew what we had was special.  Our life together was short - but I am SO very grateful for every piece of it. This blessed marriage also gave us the amazing gift of our precious daughter. 

Reaching for Daddy's hand. 
Pure gift.

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Four years ago, as we prepared to enter the adoption process, we were asked to compile an Adoption Profile which birth mothers would be able to look at as they chose adoptive parents for their babies. I wanted to include the pages that Iain and I wrote describing each other. 
Here is the one I wrote about Iain:

And here is the one Iain wrote about me.
(I feel so blessed to have these words from his heart.)

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And just for good measure, I'll throw in the rest of the profile - for those who might be interested.

There are a couple more pages that I've yet to locate....but you get the jist.
We were blessed.
We are blessed.


  1. I loved reading your story, Maria. Thanks so much for sharing it. And as if your words needed any help, your pictures certainly added life to them!! You are in my thoughts and prayers daily. We miss you and "Jonna". Hope to see you guys soon.

  2. Maria,
    This is absolutely beautiful. What a blessed gift to have these testimonies of your love for one another. Thank you so much for sharing a glimpse into your happiness. You are such an inspiration to me. Praying for sunny skies for you and your sweet Gianna soon.

  3. I really enjoyed reading your profile and learning more about you and Iain. What a special love you shared!

  4. I love how well you two love :) You both made everyone feel loved!

  5. Dear Mary,

    You always will be in our thoughts and prayers as well as Ian.

    Thank you for the Lewis Land. We really appreciate it for sure,it will help us to maintain Ian's memory for ever.

    My best Regards

    Lesbia, Gerald & Duilio Gerardo.

    Nicaragua,September 10th 2011.


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